This post is quite close to my heart, although I am not married, nor planning one, my Dad would not be present when (or if) I finally do. Sadly my Dad passed away suddenly, one year ago this week. This being the first anniversary I am still struggling with my loss and can’t believe he has gone. It’s all very raw. Neither my two sisters or I will have our Daddy at our wedding. So how would we mark the absence of loved ones?
I know I am not in this boat alone. Two dear friends that I grew up with also lost their Dad’s – all within 6 months of each other. So, how do you plan your wedding and involve those who cannot be there in body to celebrate with you? No matter how long ago they passed it’s always nice to remember people, and why shouldn’t they be a part of your day? Here’s a few idea’s……
1. Wear something that reminds you of them. This may be Grandma’s pearl earrings or Dad’s tie or cufflinks.
2. Toast to their memory. A mention during the speeches would be a lovely tribute.
3. Save them a seat. Place a single rose or small bouquet on the chair either before the ceremony starts or as a part of the ceremony.
4. Have a Photo Table. This is my favourite. Photo’s of family members at weddings or family gatherings. A nice way to reminisce with family.
It doesn’t matter if it happened last week, last year or ten years ago – there is still going to be a hole. Don’t ignore it. It’s okay to shed a tear for the absence of loved ones and know they will ALWAYS love us.